Folks, pay attention to what judges do in your case. This can tell you a lot. For example, if a judge cuts down your parenting time, that tells you something about the judge’s attitude. Pay attention to this, especially as you are likely to have that judge on modifications. Whatever the judge does, for you, or against you, pay attention. You learn what the judge likes and dislikes, favors and disfavors. This, sadly, can make a major difference in your case.
Two words: WORK TOGETHER.
You will have this child the rest of your lives — hopefully.
You will co-parent with this person, the other parent, for many years.
Examples of GOOD co-parenting:
–Making sure the child knows the other parent’s home is “home” to the child, too.
–Speaking of the other parent with respect to, and in front of the child.
–Making sure the child has clothes that FIT when the child goes to the other parent’s home.
–Sending “back” clothes that came from the other parent’s home when the child returns.
Examples of BAD co-parenting:
–Telling the child you can’t afford this or that because the other parent doesn’t give you enough money — EVEN IF IT IS TRUE.
–Calling your best friend and badmouthing the other parent when the child is within earshot — again, even if the conduct of which you are complaining is objectionable.
–”Forgetting” to tell the other parent about school events — or telling them when it’s too late for them to make arrangements to come to the event.
–Refusing to let the child take things the child enjoys to the other parent’s house, such as a game, movie, or favorite stuffed animal.
You hate the other person, they cheated on you, they let you down. Who cares? Get over it! As long as they are not abusive or neglectful to the child, do what you can to grow up and accept that they let you down, but are still your child’s other parent. And by “abusive” or “neglectful”, I do not mean “introducing the child to the new girlfriend or boyfriend” or “not paying as much child support as you think they should be paying”. You are an adult. Act like one!
For your child’s sake.
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